I learned about the existence of my daughter exactly a year ago. Merely days after experiencing a "change of heart". I knew it would never work out. I was absolutely convinced I would never become a mother.
Why?
Those moms... The ones that believe any woman's sole purpose in life is in bearing children. And if you haven't used your uterus to grow another human being, then you don't understand true living, you have done nothing worthy with your life, and you are not allowed any opinions regarding, well, anything... Because you just don't understand until you've had kids.
You know what, women? It is not true.
Whether you made the choice, have not had the chance, or suffer from a condition... Not having children does not make you less of a human being. And having children does not make you more of one!
You are worthy of love, worthy of respect, and worthy of praise. You should never be belittled or ignored. With or without the use of your uterus, you have a purpose! Better yet, you are not defined by the judgment of people.
Thanks to my struggle to become a mother, I learned how to value myself based on God's view of me. I gave up the belief that my life was defined by circumstances, labels, jobs, or judgment of others. Then, 10 days after I was sure I would never become a mother and that God must have some other plan for my life... I was privileged to watch my husband cut my daughter's umbilical cord and hold her for the first time.
And now that I'm a mom... my beliefs are the same. There was no monumental shift in my universe. Yes, daily life has changed greatly. But my view of myself, my trust in God, my sense of worth... It is all the same.
Keep the faith, ladies. Don't let those people hurt you, destroy you, or, worst of all, change you.