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I created this blog mostly to talk about adoption.  I am an adoptive mom to the most perfect daughter God could ever have blessed me with.  However, as much as I wish life could be simple, it does not always revolve around the things we wish it would.

I currently live in Denver, CO.  I love this city.  Denver's culture is completely different than where I was raised.  I would describe Denver as very organic and local-focused.  I moved here from small-town, TX for college.  I received two degrees to begin a specific career in an industry that would suddenly alter with the economy upon graduation.  Thankfully I married a man I met in college in a different industry.  He introduced me to the world of Food & Bev.  I worked my way through the wedding industry just as it was gaining popularity through television shows like "Say Yes to the Dress".  Of course, I was working in a bridal salon when that show first aired.  Though I worked with wedding dresses and wedding coordination, I always came back to catering.  Eventually I became a banquet manager at a huge venue and got to live the epic business woman dream.  I rarely slept and kept my smart phone on me 24/7. 

While living this hectic lifestyle as a banquet manager, I got diagnosed with the infamous "unexplained infertility".  According to all tests, there was nothing wrong with me... but doctors could not figure out why we could not sustain a pregnancy.  Six miscarriages and there was no explanation! 

But my husband and I had plans.  We always wanted to adopt.  It was something we talked about from the beginning.  When doctors pushed us to do IVF we pushed back.  That's not what we wanted.  Our "family" was made up of so much more than biological relatives.  Why did a child have to be biological?  That's when we found an adoption agency and started the process.

I'm going to skip most of the details of the terrible agency we used.  This agency was made up of liars and cheaters and selfish people.  But that is a story for another time.

The adoption process was traumatizing.  We had a "change of heart".  Every adoptive parent understands the devastation of a "change of heart" experience.  When you have been offered a beautiful child and the birth family decides to parent instead of place for adoption.  It is hard not to be bitter.  But that was never my child.  And it was never my choice.  Even my daughter is not fully my child.  She has a biological family that she is still connected to.  And I can never sever that tie.  I love my daughter's birth family.  I don't think we could have been blessed with anyone better.  There is no doubt in our minds that our daughter's birth mother loved her more than anything on earth.  I don't think she could have made the difficult decision without that love.  Open adoption has opened our eyes to a whole new world of love. 

 

 



This part of the story is where life takes a new turn.  We are moving soon.  We are going to Florida, a decision we have discussed for several years.  We are being given the opportunity to make this change and we are taking it.  The other big news is that, once we move, we will begin the process of a second adoption.  However, this will not be as traditional.  We are planning an embryo adoption.  And we couldn't be more excited!

This life has been nothing like I expected... but I wouldn't change it for anything!